"At this moment there are 6,470,818,671 people in the world.
Some are running scared.
Some are coming home.
Some tell lies to make it through the day.
Others are just not facing the truth.
Some are evil men, at war with good.
And some are good, struggling with evil.
Six billion people in the world, six billion souls.
And sometimes... all you need is one."
- One Tree Hill
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Friday, November 7, 2008
It doesn't pay to take initiative; Halo/Devil Effect
As has been proven over many occasions.
Which is a bit sad, because it took me long enough to gather the courage to start doing so, particularly in stuff that people hate to take initiative in, like admitting to a fault or most negative stuff.
So far on two occasions i've been the one corresponding with profs due to errors in projects, apologising for the mistake and trying to put across as nicely as i can that we would like to rectify the error. It's not something that i particularly mind, and didn't really take much note of until the other day when one of my group members went, "Doesn't matter to me, after all we're not emailing her using my account."
I guess that kind of means that it actually does matter who sends the email.
That aside, i believe people have thought of me as irresponsible/stupid/stuff like that when i take on things that others refuse to do because... those stuff usually just turn out badly/result in negative consequences. Profs think i'm the one who caused the problem, etc. And that's not really a good thing, particularly if the devil effect comes in.
See, people aren't going to care what kind of sacrifice you made to your reputation, or the initiative you took. What they notice is simply:
Answer question wrongly = Stupid/Dumb/Not paying attention = Not good student = Fail
Admit to error = Made error in the first place = Careless/Irresponsible = Not good student = Fail
Okay that was pretty exaggerated.
And something that happens very often in online forums:
Type short forms/Have typos = Bad English = Stupid = Bad education/upbringing
Which is very real, because everytime you see a flame war, you'll see people who use short forms get blasted for their language, which really has nothing to do with the centre of the argument in the first place. Yes, even when the bad speller can formulate a better argument than one who uses proper grammar and stuff.
I digress.
Kinda just wanted to rant, because i was feeling crappy over being the one who actually did the work we were asked to do, but ended up being the one who appeared the stupidest.
I'll talk about the spotlight effect another time.
Which is a bit sad, because it took me long enough to gather the courage to start doing so, particularly in stuff that people hate to take initiative in, like admitting to a fault or most negative stuff.
So far on two occasions i've been the one corresponding with profs due to errors in projects, apologising for the mistake and trying to put across as nicely as i can that we would like to rectify the error. It's not something that i particularly mind, and didn't really take much note of until the other day when one of my group members went, "Doesn't matter to me, after all we're not emailing her using my account."
I guess that kind of means that it actually does matter who sends the email.
That aside, i believe people have thought of me as irresponsible/stupid/stuff like that when i take on things that others refuse to do because... those stuff usually just turn out badly/result in negative consequences. Profs think i'm the one who caused the problem, etc. And that's not really a good thing, particularly if the devil effect comes in.
See, people aren't going to care what kind of sacrifice you made to your reputation, or the initiative you took. What they notice is simply:
Answer question wrongly = Stupid/Dumb/Not paying attention = Not good student = Fail
Admit to error = Made error in the first place = Careless/Irresponsible = Not good student = Fail
Okay that was pretty exaggerated.
And something that happens very often in online forums:
Type short forms/Have typos = Bad English = Stupid = Bad education/upbringing
Which is very real, because everytime you see a flame war, you'll see people who use short forms get blasted for their language, which really has nothing to do with the centre of the argument in the first place. Yes, even when the bad speller can formulate a better argument than one who uses proper grammar and stuff.
I digress.
Kinda just wanted to rant, because i was feeling crappy over being the one who actually did the work we were asked to do, but ended up being the one who appeared the stupidest.
I'll talk about the spotlight effect another time.
Labels:
halo/devil effect,
initiative,
negative,
school related
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Just some stuff.
Atlantic Starr - Always
Yes, i'm prolly still going on about the wedding thing.
Ryan & Sean's Not So Excellent Adventure
If you've ever watched nigahiga's videos on Youtube, you probably would have either 1. loved them to bits, or 2. hated how stupid they were. Whichever it is, they've come up with a movie! :D I don't think it'll be available in Singapore, but i want to get their DVD! Limin buy together? Can save on shipping lol.
I posted a comment on their latest video asking any other Singaporeans if they wanted to preorder the video together, but the comments are moving so damn quickly that no one will see it -.-
MSN Status
This is the second time i'm saying something about it in a few days; it's just a rant so ignore me unless you share the same view [you can rant in my comments].
When i put my status as 'busy' on MSN, i fucking mean it. At the rate people still bug me regarding all sorts of things when my status is as such, i don't understand why we even have statuses on MSN, when the only two that people actually believe are 'online' and 'offline'.
Scratch that. Someone tries to talk to me, EVEN WHEN I'M APPEARING OFFLINE.
"Hey are you there?"
NO I'M NOT, CAN'T YOU READ?
I put 'busy' instead of 'offline' so that people can reach me when there are IMPORTANT issues, not for you to tell me all sorts of crap that i don't need to know and honestly don't give a shit about.
Which includes, "Aww are you okay? Your personal message seems angsty."
THEN GO FUCKING TALK TO MY PERSONAL MESSAGE.
Yes, i'm prolly still going on about the wedding thing.
Ryan & Sean's Not So Excellent Adventure
If you've ever watched nigahiga's videos on Youtube, you probably would have either 1. loved them to bits, or 2. hated how stupid they were. Whichever it is, they've come up with a movie! :D I don't think it'll be available in Singapore, but i want to get their DVD! Limin buy together? Can save on shipping lol.
I posted a comment on their latest video asking any other Singaporeans if they wanted to preorder the video together, but the comments are moving so damn quickly that no one will see it -.-
MSN Status
This is the second time i'm saying something about it in a few days; it's just a rant so ignore me unless you share the same view [you can rant in my comments].
When i put my status as 'busy' on MSN, i fucking mean it. At the rate people still bug me regarding all sorts of things when my status is as such, i don't understand why we even have statuses on MSN, when the only two that people actually believe are 'online' and 'offline'.
Scratch that. Someone tries to talk to me, EVEN WHEN I'M APPEARING OFFLINE.
"Hey are you there?"
NO I'M NOT, CAN'T YOU READ?
I put 'busy' instead of 'offline' so that people can reach me when there are IMPORTANT issues, not for you to tell me all sorts of crap that i don't need to know and honestly don't give a shit about.
Which includes, "Aww are you okay? Your personal message seems angsty."
THEN GO FUCKING TALK TO MY PERSONAL MESSAGE.
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Cookie!
I haven't done my tutorial for tomorrow, nor studied for my quiz on Friday, nor the exam next week, and here i am baking smiling cookies.
Okay, i'm kidding.
Only about the smiling part.
Okay, i'm kidding.
Only about the smiling part.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
In the courtroom...
ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: How can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: But could the patient have still been alive, nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law...
Lol. Joey don't be like this ah!
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: How can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: But could the patient have still been alive, nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law...
Lol. Joey don't be like this ah!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Thank you Boy :)
I am probably the luckiest person alive. If it wasn't for KS, i'd spend 3 damned nights crying alone at home.
Then again, i did spend the 3 nights crying. But at least he was there with me.
First night he stayed over. Second i stayed over at his place. Today wasn't supposed to be anything, but he agreed to stay over again because he didn't want me to be lonely [and also because i was on the verge of tears, again].
I actually already know that i really really hate being the only one at home, because of how much i detest it when i wake up/return home and no one else is around. I just didn't know it'd be this bad such that i'd freak out and cry. Thanks Boy for being there [or actually here] with me.
Then again, i did spend the 3 nights crying. But at least he was there with me.
First night he stayed over. Second i stayed over at his place. Today wasn't supposed to be anything, but he agreed to stay over again because he didn't want me to be lonely [and also because i was on the verge of tears, again].
I actually already know that i really really hate being the only one at home, because of how much i detest it when i wake up/return home and no one else is around. I just didn't know it'd be this bad such that i'd freak out and cry. Thanks Boy for being there [or actually here] with me.
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