Live. Love. Believe. These three words are extremely powerful. They keep me alive and remind me of who i am. And they make me powerful too.
If you're stressed out by anything, just keep in mind - you've taken all the stress till now. Being able to do that is no mean feat. You should be proud of yourself. Reassure yourself that you're strong. And since you've done so well so far, nothing else is gonna stop you. You are in control of your life, and if you don't want to help yourself, no one else can.
Believe in yourself.
I am proud of myself for taking a step to make my own life better. It's not easy. Really. But eventually, because of what i did, i'll stand to gain.
I've matured mentally. And there's still so much more to learn.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Monday, September 8, 2008
Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ)
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 87
Subscale percentile = 19
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is somewhat poor. People who score like you may at times feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They sometimes struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are not always able to control their moods. It may be hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals.
In addition, they find social interactions difficult at times, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy or perhaps lacking understanding of, or comfort with, social interactions. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
(http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121)
Well. At least it improved. I'm actually a little surprised because i had thought that my EQ improved quite a bit in the recent months/half a year, and was kinda expecting it to at least be average. Oh well.
I guess i probably suck at interpersonal skills. While i definitely have a lot more friends now, i'd say my list of trusted friends remains at Top 7. I think one significant difference between my trusted friends and other friends is that, if my trusted friends do something i disagree with, i'll tell them. When we get into arguments/have any problems, i insist on thrashing it out with them. I don't mean fight, but discuss calmly and figure out the root of the problem. As for other people, i don't really care. I'd probably just overlook any differences and continue being friends as per normal.
I'd say i'm pretty open about myself and people can easily get stuff out of me, so that's really no biggie. I can tell anyone all the details about me, things that happened, etc. What they usually can't get out of me is what i'm feeling. Particularly if those feelings are negative.
But i still insist that i'm a much happier person now, living my life the way i want to, loving it, believing that things will go the way i want them to :) Life's a game and i'm in control. Woots!
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 87
Subscale percentile = 19
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is somewhat poor. People who score like you may at times feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They sometimes struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are not always able to control their moods. It may be hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals.
In addition, they find social interactions difficult at times, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy or perhaps lacking understanding of, or comfort with, social interactions. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
(http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121)
Well. At least it improved. I'm actually a little surprised because i had thought that my EQ improved quite a bit in the recent months/half a year, and was kinda expecting it to at least be average. Oh well.
I guess i probably suck at interpersonal skills. While i definitely have a lot more friends now, i'd say my list of trusted friends remains at Top 7. I think one significant difference between my trusted friends and other friends is that, if my trusted friends do something i disagree with, i'll tell them. When we get into arguments/have any problems, i insist on thrashing it out with them. I don't mean fight, but discuss calmly and figure out the root of the problem. As for other people, i don't really care. I'd probably just overlook any differences and continue being friends as per normal.
I'd say i'm pretty open about myself and people can easily get stuff out of me, so that's really no biggie. I can tell anyone all the details about me, things that happened, etc. What they usually can't get out of me is what i'm feeling. Particularly if those feelings are negative.
But i still insist that i'm a much happier person now, living my life the way i want to, loving it, believing that things will go the way i want them to :) Life's a game and i'm in control. Woots!
Aww!
An Italian man whose girlfriend left him to become a nun is holding a vigil outside the convent where she is staying in a bid to get her to reconsider.
Heartbroken Daniel Briatore, 21, has vowed to remain camped outside the convent in a bid to win back the love of his life Patrizia Masoero, also 21, after she dumped him a month ago to take religious vows.
He travelled the 300 miles from their hometown of Alassio on the Italian Riviera to the Franciscan convent at Montecassino Abbey, south of Rome. When Patrizia refused to see him he put up a banner on the convent walls reading: "I didn't want to take you away, just talk to you, because I love you".
The nuns immediately took the banner down but Daniel has said he will do "whatever it takes" to get her back, boosted by local villagers who are all said to be backing him.
So sweet! Omggg.
Got it from Arbroath :)
Heartbroken Daniel Briatore, 21, has vowed to remain camped outside the convent in a bid to win back the love of his life Patrizia Masoero, also 21, after she dumped him a month ago to take religious vows.
He travelled the 300 miles from their hometown of Alassio on the Italian Riviera to the Franciscan convent at Montecassino Abbey, south of Rome. When Patrizia refused to see him he put up a banner on the convent walls reading: "I didn't want to take you away, just talk to you, because I love you".
The nuns immediately took the banner down but Daniel has said he will do "whatever it takes" to get her back, boosted by local villagers who are all said to be backing him.
So sweet! Omggg.
Got it from Arbroath :)
Thursday, September 4, 2008
This Too Shall Pass
Once upon a time, there lived a king who tended to feel blue. Whenever he felt content, he would be afraid that it wouldn't last forever. And whenever he felt discontent, he would be afraid that it would last forever.
One night, he had a dream in which he saw a special ring, which he felt would remove his blues, solving his problem once and for all. When he awoke, he asked his advisors to find him the ring. But none of them could find it. The wisest advisor then decided to get a jeweller, to create a ring which fitted the king's description. However, it was actually an ordinary ring. The difference were the few words inscribed onto it - "This too shall pass."
When it was announced that the ring was found, the king received it with great anticipation. As he sees and reflects on the words it, his sorrows suddenly gave way to joy, as his joys gave way to sorrow, before they both gave way to equanimity... which is the balanced state of mind that has neither attachment to joy nor aversion to sorrow. Thereafter, when he felt discontent, he would look at the ring to remind him of its words of truth. The king had finally found peace.
How did the king find peace? It was through his realisation that both worldly joys and sorrows are fleeting in nature, even if some experiences last for relatively longer times. The source of his real sorrow was not that joys always eventually give way to sorrow. The root of the problem lies in his attachment to joys and his aversion to sorrows, and his refusal to accept the truth that both are transient in nature, that joy and sorrow will always alternate.
It is making peace with the truth of the impermanence of our experiences that brings True Happiness, which should not be mistaken as the normal "highs" of life. No one can sustain "delirious happiness" for extended periods, just as no one can sustain "manic depression" indefinitely. Things change - whether we like it or not, whether we accept it or not.
Deep down, we know True Happiness is the "real joy" beyond ordinary joy - which is why we find the Buddha's calm and composed smile so pleasingly soothing. The Buddha had already realised True Happiness. Will you too?
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/thedailyenlightenment-realisation/message/266
Mom forwarded this to me in an email. The first thing i thought after i read it was, "Dang, should have inked these four words instead." But then it wouldn't really make sense because then it'll be as if the tattoo would 'pass' as well. Lol.
I agree with this quite a lot. Been a little stressed recently due to school, but to all the people that i've been complaining to, i also mentioned that i know things will eventually get better :) And yup, that's the way life is :D
One night, he had a dream in which he saw a special ring, which he felt would remove his blues, solving his problem once and for all. When he awoke, he asked his advisors to find him the ring. But none of them could find it. The wisest advisor then decided to get a jeweller, to create a ring which fitted the king's description. However, it was actually an ordinary ring. The difference were the few words inscribed onto it - "This too shall pass."
When it was announced that the ring was found, the king received it with great anticipation. As he sees and reflects on the words it, his sorrows suddenly gave way to joy, as his joys gave way to sorrow, before they both gave way to equanimity... which is the balanced state of mind that has neither attachment to joy nor aversion to sorrow. Thereafter, when he felt discontent, he would look at the ring to remind him of its words of truth. The king had finally found peace.
How did the king find peace? It was through his realisation that both worldly joys and sorrows are fleeting in nature, even if some experiences last for relatively longer times. The source of his real sorrow was not that joys always eventually give way to sorrow. The root of the problem lies in his attachment to joys and his aversion to sorrows, and his refusal to accept the truth that both are transient in nature, that joy and sorrow will always alternate.
It is making peace with the truth of the impermanence of our experiences that brings True Happiness, which should not be mistaken as the normal "highs" of life. No one can sustain "delirious happiness" for extended periods, just as no one can sustain "manic depression" indefinitely. Things change - whether we like it or not, whether we accept it or not.
Deep down, we know True Happiness is the "real joy" beyond ordinary joy - which is why we find the Buddha's calm and composed smile so pleasingly soothing. The Buddha had already realised True Happiness. Will you too?
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/thedailyenlightenment-realisation/message/266
Mom forwarded this to me in an email. The first thing i thought after i read it was, "Dang, should have inked these four words instead." But then it wouldn't really make sense because then it'll be as if the tattoo would 'pass' as well. Lol.
I agree with this quite a lot. Been a little stressed recently due to school, but to all the people that i've been complaining to, i also mentioned that i know things will eventually get better :) And yup, that's the way life is :D
Weird thing i noticed
While i was heading back from school today, i noticed that some random guys walking on the street were wearing caps on their heads. No, i don't mean 'on' as in how people normally wear caps. I mean 'on' as in, it's just sitting there such that it looks like the wind could blow it off anytime.
No offense, but personally i think it makes them look like
Oookay, like, what do they do that for? I don't really think that wearing their caps like that would make their brains eventually expand to fill that capacity. Maybe it's for the purpose of protecting their hairdos, so that they wouldn't get their beautiful spiked hair squashed or something.
Hmmm.
No offense, but personally i think it makes them look like
Oookay, like, what do they do that for? I don't really think that wearing their caps like that would make their brains eventually expand to fill that capacity. Maybe it's for the purpose of protecting their hairdos, so that they wouldn't get their beautiful spiked hair squashed or something.
Hmmm.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Why Mothers Nag
http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking%2BNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_274220.html?vgnmr=1
And children never seem to listen.
You realise that your parents nag less about some things. Those are probably the ones where they can still scold and blame you after you've committed the act and learnt your own lesson. At least maybe blaming can make them feel better.
But for some other things, all they can do is nag at you and worry, and hope you'll listen. They try their best to prevent you from doing dumb stuff like that. Grounding. Curfews. All sorts of stuff.
Because they don't want to be facing a situation where even blaming doesn't make them feel any better.
And children never seem to listen.
You realise that your parents nag less about some things. Those are probably the ones where they can still scold and blame you after you've committed the act and learnt your own lesson. At least maybe blaming can make them feel better.
But for some other things, all they can do is nag at you and worry, and hope you'll listen. They try their best to prevent you from doing dumb stuff like that. Grounding. Curfews. All sorts of stuff.
Because they don't want to be facing a situation where even blaming doesn't make them feel any better.
Monday, September 1, 2008
Deja Vu
Yesterday i woke up having this funny feeling that i'd ever thought of what deja vu is before. Then again, i probably did.
Okay not funny i know.
So basically i wiki-ed deja vu. According to Wiki, it's this feeling of familiarity that you get in a situation, like you've been in the exact same situation before, followed by a feeling of eerieness. Often it feels like the same thing happened in a dream and you're acting it out now.
When i was a kid, i used to come up with various 'theories' for these funny feelings of deja vu. Maybe i was simultaneously living in two worlds. Maybe i'm reincarnated, and am replaying my previous life exactly as it was all over again! =o Or maybe i just have this ability to predict stuff in my dreams. Wow. I wish i could =/
According to this guy called Arthur Funkhouser [damn i want his last name], there are three kinds of deja vu - deja vecu, deja senti, and deja visite. Deja vecu means 'already lived', deja senti means 'already felt', and deja visite means 'already visited'. I think the last one's really cool. It's like going to a place that you've never gone before, and yet you find yourself able to navigate around, as if you know that place already.
Some scientific explanations attribute deja vu to stuff like mis-timing of neuronal firing or miscommunication of the two cerebral hemispheres. But of course that's a lot less fun than wondering if you exist in a separate world simultaneously, and for a few moments these two happen to combine or something :D
So yup, that's pretty much it for today's [actually yesterday's] wondering about the world. I wonder what i'll wonder about tomorrow.
Okay not funny i know.
So basically i wiki-ed deja vu. According to Wiki, it's this feeling of familiarity that you get in a situation, like you've been in the exact same situation before, followed by a feeling of eerieness. Often it feels like the same thing happened in a dream and you're acting it out now.
When i was a kid, i used to come up with various 'theories' for these funny feelings of deja vu. Maybe i was simultaneously living in two worlds. Maybe i'm reincarnated, and am replaying my previous life exactly as it was all over again! =o Or maybe i just have this ability to predict stuff in my dreams. Wow. I wish i could =/
According to this guy called Arthur Funkhouser [damn i want his last name], there are three kinds of deja vu - deja vecu, deja senti, and deja visite. Deja vecu means 'already lived', deja senti means 'already felt', and deja visite means 'already visited'. I think the last one's really cool. It's like going to a place that you've never gone before, and yet you find yourself able to navigate around, as if you know that place already.
Some scientific explanations attribute deja vu to stuff like mis-timing of neuronal firing or miscommunication of the two cerebral hemispheres. But of course that's a lot less fun than wondering if you exist in a separate world simultaneously, and for a few moments these two happen to combine or something :D
So yup, that's pretty much it for today's [actually yesterday's] wondering about the world. I wonder what i'll wonder about tomorrow.
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